“A daughter is a day brightener and a heart warmer.” -Author unknown

I heard something today that made me smile. I thought this photo went along well with what I’m about to tell you. It was taken by a friend who met our Pearl during their trip to Uganda. She is giggling behind her hand at the thought of meeting someone who knew us. Such a precious moment, such a sweet, feminine gesture captured for us. The pastor told me that she was so excited, she could barely contain herself on the way to meet them.

Today, he told me that she often talks to him about how much she loves me, how much she has to offer me as her mother. That is at the same time heartbreaking and heartwarming to hear.

It’s heartbreaking in that I don’t want the poor child to feel like she has to perform to or reach a certain standard for me to love her, or that we are over here waiting with big expectations of her. I don’t want her to feel some kind of self-inflicted pressure that she has to do something to make us want her. We already want her. It makes me sad because her thinking like that clearly shows how much she has been longing for the security of living under a mother’s love and guidance.

But it’s also heartwarming in that it gives me insight to her spirit. I’ve heard that she’s generous, that she’s always looking out for others, that she’s warm and welcoming. Who could ask for more in a daughter? The fact that she’s already thinking in terms of what she can give us, and not only about what we can give her, speaks volumes to me about her character.

And it just about melts me to tears that God would allow this sweet soul to become part of our family.

Thank you to all of you who are helping us pray our girl home.


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  1. Your love for her reminds me of how we want to do things for the Lord and he just wants to love us. He just loves us! Thanks for sharing your life with us as you go through “adventure”,, not an easy one.

    1. Thank you so much for your sweet words. You truly opened my eyes to something I’d not really thought about before. I reread what I wrote, and thought about what I’d said from the perspective of our loving God and it made me tear up. I think we get so wrapped up in trying to please Him, believing (even if we know that it’s not possible) that if we’re just good enough, if we do enough good things, He’ll love us and want us. But He loves us anyway, despite anything we can or will ever do for Him. He just loves us. Thank you for sharing that with me and opening my eyes to that truth. Sometimes it’s so hard to see myself as the recipient of that love. How beautiful that He extends that gift of love to all of us!